Sorry chaps, just venting a bit of frustration really.
My little one has just turned 1 a few weeks back and the misses is back at work in 2 weeks so we had to put him in nursery, not that I want to-but what choice do we have!!
Anyway, we went to see nursery's about 6-8 months ago and found one we liked. Good location, good feel and great atmosphere! So we enrolled him at this particular one out of the others we saw.
Anyway, last week we had to start his settling in period and we were told its simply two 1 hour slots with the parent, then one 1 hour slot with the parent outside and then 2 half days alone---THATS IT!
Anyway, the misses took him down last week for the 1st session and it was horrid! They didnt even approach our little one and talk to him and they didnt even ask the misses any questions. Misses was quite upset and started having second thoughts! Anyway, second session, pretty much the same so we thought OK maybe this is how they settle them and let them get on with it!
Anyway, last Friday was his first lone session without parents. We got there and the little one went off to play and they were playing with him, looking good today we thought. So they said you should go now. As expected, we were both in tears leaving him there!
About an hour later we called them and they said he started crying badly once we left and was hard to contain, yet they didnt call us. They said he was OK now though. So we called again an hour later and he had cried more and put himself to sleep. We asked if we should come and get him and they said he is asleep and they were going to give dinner shortly.
So, we went about 2 hours later to get him and the lady said he has eaten and went back to sleep. Did he ! He was lying on the blanket with his eyes open almost like he was scared to get up. He saw us and jumped up!
OK, so we thought he needs to settle in, so yesterday was his next half day lone session. Misses went to drop him and he clung onto her and screamed and they had to grab him off her. Misses calls me bawling her eyes out! She called up about half hour later and she can still hear him crying. She calls up another hour later and he has put himself to sleep crying (at a time that was not even his sleep time).
Anyway, asked if we should come and get him and they said no, you should let him settle in. Anyway, misses went to get him at 12:30pm and he pretty much wanted to run away as fast as he could from there! They said to the wife that he had aboout 2 or 3 swigs of his 6oz of milk and had about 2 spoons of lunch and had about 2-3oz of water. OK, so we thought he is going to be like this on the first few days. They hand the misses his day sheet and they have put on there:
- Baby enjoyed himself today;
- Had milk;
- Had lunch;
- Had water.
DID HE !
He had less than 2 spoons of feed.
He had about 1 drop of water.
How the did he enjoy himself when he cried the entire time and when the misses went to get him he ran!
To make matters worse, instead of making a note of his nappy changes, they wrote that the nappy was changed "as and when needed"!
So we decided enough was enough, I dont want my son going there. SOOO we have spent this morning finding a different one and TBH, the entire structure and approach is totallt different. At the new one, the manageress was literally treating him like her own and ALL the staff made and effort to speak my my misses and I to ask us about the little one! Feels comforting! So we enrolled him straight away and today he had his 1st 1 hour settling in period and the misses said he loved it. The staff noticed that he liked the sand so they went and got the sand station out "especially" for him!
In addition, the way they do the settling in is soo much different. They said we need 2 weeks settling in. 1st day is 1 hour and the parent stays with the child. 2nd day is 1 hour and the parent stays with the child then goes out for 5 minutes ever 10-15 minutes. Then we increase the time to 1.5 hours and 2 hours, etc, etc and the parent starts to leave the child for longer and only called back in if child is looking for parent and cry's. Depending on the childs progression, they then make a decision as to when they can leave the child onsite alone and the mother/father return home. They usually allow 2 weeks settling in but if not fully settled they are happy to increase.
So a bit of a contrast hey to the "other" nursery. Totally heartbreaking the last week has been!
So there you have it, my rant at the nursery. I wont name and shame them as im sure they aint as bad as I am thinking, but I simply cannot see my child go through what he did last week and yesterday!
If anyone does want to put their child in a nursery from a small age and are in Birmingham, I am happy to let you know by PM ONLY.
On the flip side, I will let you know how he gets on at the new place and if he is OK there, I will also happily inform you of where this place is too.
Heartbreaking but some points in the above that I think every parent has a right to know and choose.
Nursery must be right for the parents too as well as the child!
Been and upsetting few days to be honest!
Rant Over....sorry, but a bit of steam has now been let off!