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    Default I need help with a dilema.

    Need some advice and also need to get this of my chest before it drives me crazy. I'm good mates with a lad at work who's wife also works at the same place, they are a young couple he's 27 shes 24, no kids. they have been married for a couple of years. To anyone who would see them they seem blissfully happy, and I know that he is head over heels in love with her. The thing is today as I walked past the canteen (I was on the outside of the building) I saw my mates wife kissing another bloke. At the moment I cant even look at my mate square on, and its getting to the stage where he is suspecting something is wrong. What do I do??
    To start with I dunno if I could break that sort of news to him.
    If I do pluck up enough courage to tell him will he even believe me, therfore risking a good frienship, as of course I cant see his wife admitting to it. Do I approach the other guy and tell him I know whats going on and warn him to back off.

    This is really doing my swede in. All advice is welcome.

    My other car. 1972 1641cc slammed beetle. On the road finally!!

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    hard one m8

    i think i would tell him as if it was me i would like to be told.

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    I would just tell him, if he has doubts as you say you are only backing up what he already knows! It's a tough one for sure but if it were me and my friend was truly a good friend I'd believe him.

    HTH,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Robbie69 View Post
    I would just tell him, if he has doubts as you say you are only backing up what he already knows! It's a tough one for sure but if it were me and my friend was truly a good friend I'd believe him.

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    He doesn't suspect a thing. Its only because I cant look at him square on that he is getting suspicious that something is wrong with me and him.

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    Can you be sure it WAS another man though???

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diet1985 View Post
    Can you be sure it WAS another man though???
    Oh yeah, I know the other guy involved too. and it was defiently him

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    Tell him, as a friend I would!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Robbie69 View Post
    Tell him, as a friend I would!
    I think your right robbie but it one of those things that is easier said than done. Not only that they are going on holiday for 2 weeks on Sat.

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    It really is a toughy mate. Just put yourself in his shoes, would you rather know? Is it best to tell her and the other bloke you know and see what happens? What if it all comes out and he finds out you knew? Is it best to keep out of it? Only you have the answers mate.

    Good luck with what ever you decide,

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    Quote Originally Posted by Robbie69 View Post
    Tell him, as a friend I would!

    I was in the same situation as you a few years back, I told my "close" friend about his wife ....now they have made up he no longer talks to me ....

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