User Tag List

Thanks Thanks:  0
Likes Likes:  0

View Poll Results: What would you have done?

Voters
61. You may not vote on this poll
  • Do nothing.

    1 1.64%
  • Remove the baloon as it was disruptive

    60 98.36%
Page 1 of 8 123 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 71

Thread: Please can you give me your thoughts on a real family problem

  1. #1
    Regular Member Derek Mc's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    Sodding Typical on Sea
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats





    Default Please can you give me your thoughts on a real family problem

    Good people,

    I am going to do a poll on what you would do under a given situation, this may seem inane and pathetic to read as described but please, the situations as exactly described has caused a massive family rift and I need to understand if there is any wrongdoing, on what side.

    Scenario is as follows

    A family of 2 Grand parents, 8 grown adult children / partners and 5 children are gathered where one of the grown adult children is performing a presentation to the assembled group that was rather detailed relating to a war heor great grandfather that no-one knew of.

    The children were sitting to the side as they had a role of participation.
    One of the children who is by nature very disruptive, started to sing over the adult's voice to try and drown the person talking out, while doing this, the child made eye contact around each of the adults to see that she was getting attention. The child was asked to stop by the other children (believe it or not) as they were becoming stressed and disturbed, the adult doing the presentation showed signs of being disturbed and lost the wording on a couple of occasions, other adults showed signs of being disturbed.
    Next stage as the signing failed was to get hold of a baloon and rub the skin with her hands to make a very loud screaching grumbling again making sure that everyone was paying attention only to her. The parents of that child did nothing.

    At that point the Aunt of the child, who was the closest adult to the kid, stood up and took the balloon off her in a swift no contact snatch movement. The child then displayed the usual behaviour of hiding behind a chair.

    The outcome. After the event, the father of the child, closed the open doors to the kitchen and gave the Aunt a severe reprimand for reprimanding the child.

    Who was right who was wrong and please offer your opinions

    My sincerest thanks
    Last edited by Derek Mc; 31st October 2012 at 23:15.

  2. #2
    Regular Member Ben_'s Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    Audiville, WM
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats





    Default

    Remove balloon... Children need to have set boundaries end of, when someone else is talking, listen, they can't be centre of attention ALL the time.

  3. #3
    Moderator & Events Assistant paulhb's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    Wondering lonely as a cloud
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    24 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats

    Vehicle : M5

    Trim : Nothing needs adding

    Engine : 5.0 V10

    Year : 07

    Mileage : 37000

    Default

    The parents need a boot up the backside and the same for their spoiled brat I would have stopped it earlier good and proper

  4. #4
    Regular Member BigWilko's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Barnsley
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats

    Vehicle : Signum

    Trim : Design

    Engine : 3.0 CDTI

    Year : 2005

    Default

    Strange one. I'd say the father was in the wrong. I have a 4 year old who's as good as gold, Yes she misbehaves but as a general rule if i tell her to sit down and sit still she will thus proving that a youngster of that age can know how to behave. If any one of my family/ freinds 'reprimanded' my daughter for what they thought was disruptive/ ill behavior then that would be fine by me. The more concern to me would be the hiding behind the chair. That's strange.

  5. #5
    Regular Member CH-VECTRA-ELITE's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    Frimley
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats

    Vehicle : Vectra Estate

    Trim : Elite

    Engine : CDTI 150 (Z19 DTH)

    Year : 2006

    Mileage : 140000

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by BigWilko View Post
    Strange one. I'd say the father was in the wrong. I have a 4 year old who's as good as gold, Yes she misbehaves but as a general rule if i tell her to sit down and sit still she will thus proving that a youngster of that age can know how to behave. If any one of my family/ freinds 'reprimanded' my daughter for what they thought was disruptive/ ill behavior then that would be fine by me. The more concern to me would be the hiding behind the chair. That's strange.
    I'm the same, my daughter turns 4 tomorrow and she is so well behaved you would think she's older. Yes she can be naughty but she knows when to behave. If this was my child messing around and a member of my family stepped in, I wouldn't have a problem but I know it would never get to that stage because i want my daughter to have manners and i'd be the first one to tell her off and not sit back.

  6. #6
    Regular Member Mark-R's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Dundee
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    2 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats

    Vehicle : GSI

    Trim : (vxr/irmy)

    Engine : 3.2 v6

    Year : 2004

    Default

    I would have got something and popped it LOL and then told the father to get a grip of his child.

  7. #7
    Regular Member keith1983's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    Sheffield / Spalding
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats

    Vehicle : Vectra 1.8 SRi

    Trim : SRi

    Engine : Z18XE

    Year : 2004

    Default

    The father is in the wrong in my opinion, it shouldn't have taken someone else to tackle his childs poor behaviour. One thing I would say though is that hiding behind a chair is not usual behaviour in my experience. How old is the child in question?

  8. #8
    Regular Member Derek Mc's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    Sodding Typical on Sea
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats





    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by keith1983 View Post
    The father is in the wrong in my opinion, it shouldn't have taken someone else to tackle his childs poor behaviour. One thing I would say though is that hiding behind a chair is not usual behaviour in my experience. How old is the child in question?
    The child was four on July 2nd, and the entire act was contrived as eye contact was made round the room as she mis-behaved. She is the middle child of three.

    Forgive me but I don't want to say where I stand on this as I want a truly honest opinion un-clouded by my position but the fall out from this will shock everyone on here when I reveal the conclusion to this tale.

  9. #9
    Regular Member VVT-i-MATT's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Location
    Calne UK
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats





    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Mark-R View Post
    I would have got something and popped it LOL and then told the father to get a grip of his child.
    This.....

    I step in and correct my relations kids...I also give mine a good thrashing when they are little tow rags!

    Kids need rules and upbringing, not be left to turn into little gob****es!
    I hope that Aunt gave the Father what for.

  10. #10
    Regular Member keith1983's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    Sheffield / Spalding
    Problems Posted
    0
    Problems Solved
    0
    Best Answers
    0
    Good Answers
    0
    Post Thanks / Like
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Vehicle InfoStats

    Vehicle : Vectra 1.8 SRi

    Trim : SRi

    Engine : Z18XE

    Year : 2004

    Default

    My daughter is 4 on Friday and I find the hiding behind the chair thing a bit weird. In general she is well behaved but I think all kids that age have their moments. I would say her usual response to being told off is one of two things: She either goes all coy and embarrassed when she knows she was in the wrong, or she will throw a tantrum if we are stopping her doing something she thinks she should be allowed to do.

Page 1 of 8 123 ... LastLast

Thread Information

Users Browsing this Thread

There are currently 1 users browsing this thread. (0 members and 1 guests)

Similar Threads

  1. Thoughts are with Aprils family
    By Angel1368 in forum The 'Off Topic' room
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 5th October 2012, 13:26
  2. First real mod - What air box?
    By JohnSH8892 in forum Petrol Engine related
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 31st August 2011, 21:22
  3. are these real
    By neverlandandy in forum General Chat
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 23rd December 2008, 11:27
  4. Please give me some advice Autobox problem ???
    By Woodenman in forum Engine & Drivetrain
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 5th April 2007, 20:01

Visitors found this page by searching for:

Nobody landed on this page from a search engine, yet!

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •