Hi all i have not been on here for about 2-3weeks as my dad died on the 2nd i just feel as i need to tell someone really.....
sorry about the spelling
My Dad has been ill for sometime since Feb this year when we first took him into hospital he was confused and has been deppresed for as long as i can remember id say the past 2 years or so he has also lost so much waight so since Feb he has been in and out of hospital at one point he was in there for 3 months they said he had fluid on the brain at one point my dad flipped was very confused was seing things ect was very upseting to see he even ended up in St georges.... the doctors said that they could do a lumber puncture to drain the fluid to release the presure hoping that he would be better in walking and better memory ect ect during this time he has so many tests blood tests scans fluid test you name it he had it then he was discharged from hospital with the understanding that he would return in a few months to see if the fluid had built back up which it did so he yett again got took into hospital with a chest infection and fluid on the lungs then he was ok (we thought) so he spent time at our static caravan for approx 10 weeks then he went into the RVI hospital for the procedure for the shunt this was on a Wednesday a day later he was not well and day by day he got worse i seen him at the caravan (i stoped the night) on Saturday then my sisters seen him the Sunday then he was really ill he was being sick his sick was green and black so he got rushed into hospital on the Monday i finished work i went to see him only for 10mins as he wanted me and my mam to go so he could be alone so we did and early Tue morning we got the call from the hospital can we come in your dads not well his blood presure is low ect ect so i got there first he didnt look good i told him that he was going to be alright and he said in a weak voice yeah... then my sisters came at this point we just thought it was another night at the hospital to reasure him hes ok ect then the doctor took us into a ****** cubourd as he didnt have anywhere to sit and said you dad has 12 to 24 hrs to live OMG my legs nerly give way i felt sick and the worse part was they said they would not resusatate him god knowing that and what was happening my life just changed in a space of 2mins so it was heart breaking going back into the room seing my dad gasp for air moaning knowing that they would not do anything we where all there we cuddle him to the end i have never ever felt so much pain never ever then we left the room and came back to see him and that was worse he was a greeny colour and his mouth and eyes where wide open it was horrific we had to go back the next day to get his death certificate and to our shock he died of renal failure ( kindneys had been shut down for over a week)...
his stomach had shut down
he had a blockage in his bowl..... he had phemonia.... and blood poisoning....and the WORST of all CANCER which we never knew so we asked the question how was this not spotted the doctor just went red and fobbed us off i asked how long would he have had if he didnt die he said 6months so the cancer was well advanced so we are now getting this all looked into we have soo many questions so many... we laid him to rest on Wed the 10th that was really hard as i carried him to rest sorry for the long message i just wanted to tell you
my dad was only 66 he never complained he just got on with it right to the end Rest In Peace dad you are a brave man
i feel robbed as im only 26 we should of had alot longer together