I received word that a 5 year old family member died suddenly last night. It has presented me with one hell of a dilemma.
The child is the Step Grand-daughter of my brother. I only met the child 4 times at most. The problem is that when my parents died my family fell out big time. My brother and I have not spoken for 3-4 years and frankly thatís been fine. I wonít drag up all that history. We received the news from my sister in law this morning, and she was asked to pass on my brotherís phone number. Is it a sign he wants to talk?
I feel I cannot punish the bereaved mother for the problems between my brother, his partner (and blood grand-mother to the dead child) and I. However, I remember when our last remaining aunty was in hospital recently and it didnít look good, They were the only family members to do naff all. Not even a call to her or a card.
Its sad news and I feel for the family, but I donít feel any sense of loss. As I say I barely knew the child. At my fatherís funeral two years ago I learnt that the bereaved mother had another 2 year old child. The family didnít even announce the birth. I feel absolutely no compulsion to go to the funeral or contact the familyÖ.BUT they are family and I do have a sense of loyalty.
What do I do?